Entitlement and Ego: The Self-Destructive Duo

Entitlement and Ego Energy 101

In our journey of self-discovery and spiritual growth, we often encounter various challenges that test our resilience and character. One of the most dangerous obstacles we face is when peace and honesty meet entitlement and ego. These two forces (entitlement and ego), when left unchecked, can lead to a life dominated by the full of self syndrome—a condition where one's perception of self-worth becomes distorted, leading to harmful energies that can echo out and infect to the entire world.

What is Entitlement?

Entitlement is the belief that one deserves certain privileges or special treatment without necessarily earning them. It's a mindset that prioritizes personal desires over the needs and rights of others. This attitude can be particularly destructive in relationships ( personal and business), leading to a lack of empathy and respect for others.

The Role of Ego and the creation of reality

Ego is the part of our psyche that deals with our self-identity and self-esteem. While a healthy ego helps us navigate the world with confidence, an inflated ego can create a false sense of superiority. When combined with entitlement, it can become a toxic mix that blinds individuals to their faults and makes them justify their harmful actions.

A Personal Encounter with Full of Self Syndrome

Some time ago, I had a client/business partner who embodied the very essence of entitlement and ego. This person, whom I trusted and valued, ended up using and lying to me in ways that left deep emotional scars. They took advantage of my kindness and generosity, exploiting my goodwill for their benefit. When the consequences of their (lack of) actions caught up with them and the world in 2019, they then disappeared from my life without a trace, leaving me to pick up the pieces. Years later, out of nowhere, this person reappeared, asking for my help again as if nothing had happened. They seemed oblivious to the global pain they had caused, their sense of entitlement and ego still fully intact. This encounter was a stark reminder of the dangers of full of self syndrome.

The Impact of Full of Self Syndrome

Full of self syndrome manifests in various ways, all detrimental to personal growth and healthy relationships. Individuals afflicted by this syndrome often:

1. Lack Accountability: They refuse to acknowledge their mistakes and blame others for their problems.

2. Show Disregard for Others: They prioritize their needs and desires over the well-being of others.

3. Exhibit Manipulative Behavior: They use others as tools to achieve their personal goals (desires), often through deceit and exploitation.

4. Experience Superficial Relationships: Their relationships are built on self-interest rather than genuine 1 on 1 connection and mutual respect and care for all.

Healing and Moving Forward. 👍

Encountering someone with full of self syndrome can be a deeply painful experience, but it also offers valuable lessons in self-awareness and boundary-setting. Here are 5 steps to heal and protect yourself:

1. Acknowledge the Pain: Allow yourself to feel and process the hurt caused by the other person's actions.

2. Set Boundaries: Clearly define and communicate your limits to protect yourself from further harm.

3. Practice Forgiveness: Forgiveness is not about excusing the behavior but releasing the glue like thought hold it has on your emotional well-being. If you gave it your all and were screwed over for it by someone, forgive yourself. The negative Karma that comes out of a situation like that it is NOT yours…Simply address a letter in your mind, place the energy of your frustration ( whatever the situation was) into the letter, seal it, put a mental stamp on it and place it into a cosmic return to sender mailbox and mail that sucker!

4. Focus on Self-Growth: Use the experience as a catalyst for your personal and spiritual growth.

5. Surround Yourself with Positivity: Seek out relationships and environments that foster mutual respect and understanding.

Wrapping it up already

Entitlement and ego, when left unchecked, can lead to a life FOREVER dominated by self-destructive behaviors and damaged relationships. Recognizing and addressing full of self syndrome within ourselves and others is crucial for fostering a life of empathy, respect, and genuine connection. By setting healthy boundaries and focusing on personal growth, we can navigate these challenges and continue our journey towards a more enlightened and fulfilling existence.

Brian Collins

Life in Synergy Inc.

A Day with My Thoughts: Discovering the Space Beyond the Noise

Is this your story?

Morning Meditation: A Quiet Start

The first rays of sunlight cast a gentle glow across my room as I find my spot on the yoga mat. It’s early, the world is just waking up, and the cool morning breeze brings the distant sounds of birdsong through my window. As I settle into a cross-legged position, a familiar thought pops up: "I hope I can stay calm when I see the piles of work waiting for me." That's one thought to count already. I smile a little at this, acknowledging the start of my daily challenge to observe and count my subconscious judgments and assumptions about myself and the world around me.

Mid-Morning at Work: A Flurry of Activity

My workday begins with a bustling pace. As I reply to emails and shuffle through my tasks, another thought strikes, "I'm not fast enough compared to Lara." Followed by a worry about an upcoming meeting: "What if I stumble?" That's three more thoughts before lunch. I pause, jot a note to keep track, and take a deep breath, reminding myself that these projections are not my reality.

Lunch Break: A Moment of Solitude

Lunchtime finds me in the park, taking a moment for myself amid a day of deadlines. I watch others around me—so carefree and absorbed in their moments. "Why can't I be that carefree?" I think. Another note in my mental journal. It's okay to just observe these thoughts, I remind myself, they do not define me.

Afternoon Challenges: Deadlines and Doubts

As the afternoon wears on, my heartbeat quickens with the looming deadline. "I might not make this. I don’t want to let the team down." Thought number eight. But instead of spiraling, I ask myself, "What can I control?" By focusing on one task at a time, I manage to calm my rising panic and chip away at the workload effectively.

Evening Reflections: Unwinding and Understanding

Evening arrives, and with it, a chance to unwind. As I sip chamomile tea and turn the pages of a mindfulness book, my journal lies open next to me—today’s thoughts carefully noted. Reflecting on the entries, I'm struck by how many judgments and assumptions I've made throughout the day. "Did I really think so much today?"

This realization sparks curiosity. What if I could understand my mind better, manage these thoughts more skillfully? I find myself searching online for resources and stumble upon a site called Life in Synergy, led by Helena Collins. Intrigued by their promise of deeper self-awareness and personal growth, I sign up for an online course titled "Apex Life in Synergy."

Conclusion: A Step Towards Self-Discovery

Tonight, I feel a quiet excitement about the journey ahead. I realize that I am not my thoughts; they are merely visitors in the vast landscape of my mind. With this new understanding, I’m eager to explore further, to learn how to live in better harmony with my thoughts and myself. For those interested in joining me on this path of discovery, consider exploring the transformative programs offered at Life in Synergy. Your own journey towards inner synergy might just be a click away.

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Ageless Wonders: Experiencing a Life in Synergy through an Open Lens

In the grand tapestry of life, our experiences are often viewed through the lens of age, as if certain years carry set expectations and limitations.

However, the essence of truly living—embracing each moment as a new, uncharted adventure—is not confined by the number of candles on our birthday cake. At Life in Synergy®, we believe that all things can be new at any age, provided we remain open and willing to ascend beyond our perceived boundaries. Society often scripts our life stages: youthful years are for exploration, middle years for consolidation, and later years for reflection. Yet, this segmented approach to living can limit the richness of our experiences. When we label activities or dreams as 'too young' or 'too old' for us, we confine our spirit within boundaries that are, in truth, artificial.

Eternal Synergy: A Mindset Shift

The key to breaking free from these age-related confines lies in a mindset shift. Imagine viewing life not as a linear journey with set phases but as a spiral of continual growth and exploration. Each loop of the spiral brings us back to familiar emotions or experiences but from a higher, more enlightened perspective. This model encourages an ever-evolving engagement with life, where nothing is ever truly repeated and everything can be experienced anew. To live this Life in Synergy philosophy, openness and willingness are essential. Openness requires us to see beyond societal norms and personal prejudices. It involves cultivating a mindset that values curiosity over certainty. Willingness, on the other hand, is about the courage to step out of our comfort zones, to embrace the unfamiliar, and to risk the vulnerability that comes with trying new things.

Ascending Beyond Age

Ascending beyond age is about elevating our spirit to a place where chronological age does not dictate capability or desire. It involves embracing a form of spiritual and mental growth that views age not as a decline but as an accumulation of wisdom and experiences that can propel us into new adventures. Whether it’s learning a new language at 60, starting a venture at 70, or exploring the metaphysical realms at any age, every new endeavor adds depth and dimension to our existence.

Practical Steps to Embrace a Life in Synergy:

Challenge Your Own Stereotypes: Reflect on what you believe is appropriate for your age. Challenge these beliefs by engaging in activities that defy these norms.

1. Cultivate Curiosity: Develop an insatiable curiosity about the world. Let your interests guide you, regardless of whether they seem age-appropriate.

2. Connect Across Generations: Learn from people both younger and older than yourself. These interactions can offer fresh perspectives and challenge age-related biases.

3. Prioritize Growth: Focus on personal growth and learning as lifelong processes. Embrace new technologies, ideas, and ways of thinking that keep you engaged with the changing world.

4. Meditate on Transience: Use meditation to reflect on the transient nature of life, which can help detach from the ego’s focus on age and instead connect with the eternal.

Remember Age is but a number ( at all stages of life), and life is a canvas of endless possibilities. By remaining open and willing to explore, learn, and grow, we can all find newness in our days, no matter the year we were born. Let’s embrace this journey with the enthusiasm of a child and the wisdom of our years, for in synergy, they create a life rich with unending discovery and joy.

Helena and Brian Collins-Boston

Life in Synergy ® Inc.

Title: Cleansing and Negative Energy the Life in Synergy Way: A 8 step No Bullshit Guide

Hey there seeker!

Feeling like the world’s spiraling a bit out of control? Yup...You're not alone. With all the chaos buzzing around, it's essential to clear out that heavy, negative energy and bring in some peace and clarity. Here’s your no-nonsense guide to cleansing your space and spirit, the Life in Synergy way, so you can stay balanced even when the world seems to be tipping off the edge.

1. Acknowledge the Chaos around:

First up, let’s not pretend everything is fine.

Recognizing that things feel off is the first step to addressing the turmoil. Whether it’s world news, personal drama, or that overwhelming to-do list—acknowledge it. By facing what's disturbing your peace, you can begin to cleanse it effectively.

2. Create Your Sacred Space:

Find a spot where you can be undisturbed. This doesn’t have to be an entire room; a small corner can work just as well. Fill it with objects that uplift you: maybe some positive memory inducing mementos, a few plants, comfortable cushions, or inspiring images. This space is your retreat, your mini-sanctuary from the world’s craziness.

3. Incorporate Natural Elements:

Incorporating elements like fire, water, earth, and air can dramatically enhance your energy cleansing. Light a natural candle or some incense to introduce fire and air. A small bowl of salt can represent earth, and a glass of water adds the water element. These elements help to balance the energy around you and within you. It doesn’t need to be “All tree huggy”, step out your dominant energies for a brief moment and simply give new things a try.

4. Practice Grounding :

When things feel too hectic, grounding is crucial. Simple techniques can make a big difference. Try walking barefoot on the grass, meditating for a few minutes outside on the earth, or practicing deep breathing exercises in nature. Visualize yourself drawing energy up from the earth and let it stabilize and refresh your spirit.

5. Use Sound to Dispel Negativity:

Sounds can literally shake up and clear out negative energy. Vibrations help reset the atmosphere and bring in a lighter, clearer vibe. Try your favorite ambient music for a session ( Don’t put on lyric based music, as words will lead to an emotional connection to the suggested lyric structure vs simply having a neutral background pallet of sound).

6. Declutter Physically and Emotionally:

Clearing out physical clutter can significantly impact your mental clarity and emotional stability. Start by decluttering your living space—donate what you don’t need, organize your surroundings, and feel the freshness it brings. Similarly, let go of old grudges and toxic thoughts that might be cluttering your mind as you do so. When you clean up, clean up not just external but internal clutter.

7. Affirmations and Intentions Catch 22 :

Words have power. Affirmations to reinforce the positivity you wish to cultivate can work, but you need to have clarity before simply going after what you desire. Why? Because there are so many levels to reality and you don’t want base surface desires to lead you into situations where you wish for money, get it through your affirmations, then go on a super fancy trip on a private plane with hand fulls of your new money and yup, then crash into the sea. You want to obtain a LIFE in Synergy which works on all aspects of energies, so that when you are in the flow, you are actually in the Divine flow, not the flow of ego or greed that may lead you down roads you don’t want to travel on.

8. Reflect and Journal with The Apex Life in Synergy online program:

Spend some time reflecting on your day and jotting down your thoughts in a journal. This practice can help you process what's happening around and within you, offering insights into how to maintain your balance. It’s also a great way to track your progress and growth on your Apex Life in Synergy online journey through these challenging times.

Remember, maintaining a balanced and cleansed energy field is an ongoing process.

It’s about making small adjustments every day, staying true to your path, and allowing yourself space to breathe and be. The world might indeed feel like it’s heading off a cliff, but with these practices, you can keep your energy aligned and clear.

You’ve got this—step by step, day by day one more step towards a Life in Synergy®.

xo Helena Collins- Best of Boston winner

Life in Synergy®